#HAWMC Challenge:
Bye, bye, bye… Living witsh an illness, you are more likely to face people who don’t understand your daily struggles. Sometimes, these people can be inconsiderate and hurtful. Have you ever wanted to tell them how you really feel, but didn’t feel like you were able to? Now is your chance! Write an open letter to the people who have hurt you. What would you say to them? What lessons would you like them to learn? I have been hurt and dismayed time and time again by ego-tistical doctors. My health is placed in their hands, yet sometimes they fail me. My letter today is directed toward two doctors that I hope I will never have again. Dear Dr. A & B, I am sorry that I ever had the opportunity to meet you. When I saw you this past Autumn you took my condition lightly. You never took the time to listen to my issues and concerns. You walked right into the room and passed judgement on me, never considering the true cause to my pain, nausea, and inability to tolerate tube feeds. You both came in my room preoccupied, literally staying for less than 5 minutes. Dr. A, I met you in the emergency room after my first ever ambulance arrival. I had never had 911 called for me or been on an ambulance. I was in so much pain, even having difficulty breathing or moving. I was already frustrated, after the nurse rolled her eyes at me when I needed help changing to the gown. When you walked in you were told that I had Gastroparesis. When asked, you said that you were familiar with Gastroparesis. The nurse came in with your treatment choice, a GI cocktail. Shortly afterwards you discharged me with a couple prescriptions, both of which are NOT supposed to be taken with Gastroparesis. No thanks there. Not only that, when I was leaving I asked for a copy of my labs. Believe it or not, the had a lab value that was way off. What a joke! After emailing my GI, I was instructed to see my PCP as soon as possible to have the lab retested. Dr. B, I met you 2 days later as inpatient. You walked in my hospital room. Before examining me or listening to me you told me that my pain, nausea, and inability to run tube feeds was a result of stress! REALLY! I could not believe my ears. In fact, I was lost and in tears. I know my body. I know when I am under stress or not. That could not be further from the truth. I was in PAIN, severe pain. I had been 3 days with no tube feeds. And you told me it was because I was stressed. I was blessed that you were only in charge of my care for 1 or 2 days. (My other hospitalists were great.) I can not explain how belittled you both made me feel. I was suffering. I was in so much discomfort that death actually sounded like a good option. You both disappointed me beyond measure. I needed you to provide comfort. It is very difficult for me to trust and feel comfortable with doctors; And you both intensified my reasons for why I hold this distrust toward doctors. Luckily, not all doctors are like you. There are some doctors that listen to my complaints, communicate with me about my needs, and honestly try to help me. Unlike you, there are some doctors that treat patients like real people and actually care! These authentic doctors were able to take my symptoms and form a real plan on how to improve my condition. What you thought was "nothing" or just "whining" actually kept me hospitalized for an entire week. During those 2 weeks I had no nutrition in my body, just iv fluids. They determined that I had gallstones and an inflamed gallbladder accompanied by a horrible Gastroparesis flare. It was NOT just a stomachache and it was NOT stress. You both failed me and I hope I never have to meet your presence again. If I do, I hope you have a new outlook on how to treat and listen to your patients. Please take a moment to think about how you would like yourself and/or your family members treated by their doctors. And beware! I have become much more vocal about the treatment I deserve. I no longer hesitate. If I think you are taking me as a joke, I will let you and the administrator know. Patients should be treated like real people and not just a chart. Sometimes, just taking a moment to discuss the symptoms with the patient, guides you so much better than just numbers or notes on a chart. I hope that you never have to experience the negativity that I faced under your care. Well, actually I take that back. I hope you do see how lack of respect from your doctor feels. Maybe then you can take a step closer to being a respectable doctor that actually improves their patients' conditions.
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Trisha BundyA proud mother, educator, Gastroparesis & GI Motility Disorder Advocate, Like my content? Want to thank me with a small token of appreciation? https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1LH7R639ORBML?ref_=wl_share
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